Is it rude to put your registry on the invitation?
Registry info belongs on the wedding website, never the invitation. Guests who want to give a gift will look for it there or ask someone close to the couple.
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“Can I ask guests for cash instead of gifts?”
It dependsNever print it on the invitation. Put registry and cash-fund details on your wedding website, and let your wedding party pass the link along when guests ask.
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The exact questions people search, text their maid of honor, and stitch-duet on TikTok — answered in one breath, then explained.
Can I uninvite a plus-one I already offered?
If a plus-one was never offered, there's nothing to rescind. If you already offered one and truly need to pull it back, that's a phone call, never a text.
What do I wear when there's no dress code listed?
Default to cocktail attire. Skip white, ivory, and cream, and steer clear of anything close to what the wedding party is likely wearing.
Do I have to invite coworkers to my wedding?
The obligation comes from the relationship, not the org chart. If you wouldn't otherwise spend a Tuesday with them, a shared job isn't a reason to invite them.
How long do guests have to send a gift?
Up to three months after the wedding, not only before it. Couples get held to that same three-month window for sending thank-you notes.
Is an adults-only wedding actually okay?
Yes. Address invitations only to the adults on your list, and tell parents early, by phone or in person, so they have time to arrange childcare.
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Six situations, endless variations
Every wedding etiquette question falls into one of these. Start with the one keeping you up tonight.
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Guests & Gifts
What guests owe hosts, what hosts owe guests, and where registries actually belong.
→ 02Invitations & Wording
Formal wording, informal wording, RSVP language, and every awkward footnote in between.
→ 03Money & Who Pays
Traditional splits, modern splits, and how to have the budget conversation without a fight.
→ 04Attire
Dress codes decoded for guests, parents, wedding parties, and every color you should avoid.
→ 05Blended & Modern Families
Divorced parents, stepparents, seating charts, and toasts that don't reopen old wounds.
→ 06The Wedding Party
Bridesmaid and groomsman duties, shower etiquette, and what's actually optional.
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Frequently settled arguments
The most-asked questions, answered the same way the site answers everything: verdict first, reasoning second.
Can you ask wedding guests for cash instead of gifts?
Never print a request for cash on the invitation itself. Put registry and honeymoon-fund details on the wedding website instead, and let parents or the wedding party pass the link along when guests ask directly.
Is it rude to put your wedding registry on the invitation?
Yes. Registry information belongs on the wedding website, never on the invitation itself. Guests who want to give a gift will look for it there or ask someone close to the couple.
What should a wedding guest wear if the invitation has no dress code?
Default to cocktail attire. Avoid white, ivory, or cream, and avoid anything close to what the wedding party is likely wearing.
Do you have to invite coworkers to your wedding?
No. The obligation to invite someone comes from the relationship, not the office. If you would not otherwise spend a Tuesday with them, a shared job is not a reason to invite them.
How long do wedding guests have to send a gift?
Etiquette gives guests up to three months after the wedding to send a gift, not only before it. Couples are held to the same three-month window for thank-you notes.
Is an adults-only wedding okay?
Yes. Address invitations only to the adults on your list and tell parents early, in person or by phone, so they have time to arrange childcare.